Some of us may not notice the small miracles in our lives. For one, if you love an addict and they’re still alive THAT is a miracle! It means there is still hope and they can get better. There are solutions to the overwhelming problems addiction causes. Sometimes seeking those solutions is the hardest thing. Families become so wrapped up in the chaos created by the addict; whether it be legal issues, trying to find or replace something they stole, or just worrying. Loving an addict or alcoholic isn’t easy. Emotions are all over the place….fear and worry are constantly there and it’s hard to know which direction to turn.
When a family turned to us a few months ago and we had the priviledge to work with them, they were not sure if an intervention would work for the addict they loved dearly. We planned for the family day and the weekend before it seemed the addict was spiraling more and more out of control. Jewlery had been stolen, money from work was taken, and the addict was living in his car. These events are common to a family dealing with an addiction and while it is true that those are sure signs things are getting out of control….these can also be signs of a cry for help, even if they addict doesn’t know it. When we went in for the intervention and the addict saw he was surrounded by love and acceptance from his family and us he accepted help immediately. As we drove away to take him to treatment I could see the weight lifted off his shoulders and he told my husband and I what a relief it was to have the opportunity to begin a new life! We accomplished our goal & were able to bring new hope to an entire family. What a blessing!
BUT that very same week while this family was blessed another was grieving over the loss of their loved one. We have to pay attention when someone is crying out for help…especially when it comes to addicts. Someone that is using & miserable has a difficult time communicating that they need help & can’t do it alone. A cry for help can be something as obvious as the addict writing a note to you, apologizing for some behavior or actually admitting they are having some “problems” right now. Most of the time they are more subtle. You may notice the addict becoming very emtional, crying a lot, or lashing out. They may also make statements such as, “I’m no good for anything or anybody,” or “I’m so worthless.” If you notice them coming home more often they most likely are hoping you will notice something is wrong. Pay attention to the small cries for help your loved one may be putting out there, hoping & praying someone will hear & take action. If you do notice them then that is a good time to reach out for help! And always remember…as long as we have breathe, we still have hope!