Certified National Drug & Alcohol Interventionists

Family Issues and the Rights You Have

YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAVE SOME FUNDEMENTAL GOD-GIVEN RIGHTS THAT ARE OFTEN
FORGOTTEN, ESPECIALLY WHILE RAISING TEENS AND/OR DEALING WITH THE TRIALS THAT
GOD PUTS BEFORE EACH OF US. BUT TODAY WE WANT TO REMIND YOU & YOUR CHILDREN
OF THESE RIGHTS IN THE HOPES THAT YOU CAN WORK TOGETHER TO LIVE PEACEFULLY AND RESPECTFULLY.

 

  • You have the right to peace and harmony in your own home.
  • You have the right to your own identity, knowing you are worthy, valued, and loved.
  • You have the right to dignity, to be treated as an individual and respected. You should not
    be afraid of constantly being used or asked to compromise your morals and
    standards.
  • You have the right to a secure and loving relationship based a healthy mutual respect and
    dependence. You should not have to walk on eggshells for anyone in your own
    family unit.
  • You have the right to a stable, secure environment that does not hinder personal and
    spiritual growth.
  • You have the right to a life free of emotional terrorism, physical abuse, and constant
    arguing and berating.
  • You have the right to a life free of guilt and shame; and freedom from manipulation through
    guilt and shame.
  • You have the right NOT to be emotionally drained and spiritually depleted due to the strain
    of a co-dependent relationship with an addict/alcoholic loved one.
  • You have the right to immediately remove yourself from situations which you feel are
    harmful, unsafe, and/or unhealthy for you. Even if this means you only need a
    few minutes or a few days for yourself  to heal….depending on the situation, you
    should always feel good about making positive changes to your circumstances
    even when the changes do not come easy.
  • You have the right to create an open dialogue within your family and feel safe to express
    your concerns and issues in a caring and compassionate manner free from
    judgment on both sides.
  • You have a right to express your feelings in a way that is non-judgmental and constructive,
    without fear of a “backlash”.
  • You have the right to decline to participate in conversations where you are being putdown
    and/or humiliated.
  • You have the right to feel ALL your feelings and know they are valid.
  • You have the right NOT to live in the chaos and vicious cycle of addiction; jumping from one
    crisis to the next.
  • You have the right to live your life outside of your home (at work or at school) without carrying
    the baggage of dysfunctional relationships everywhere you go.
  • You have the right to develop a healthy image of yourself…emotionally, spiritually,
    physically, mentally, and psychologically.
  • You have the right to experiment with the new information that has been provided to you and
    form your own new ideas and attitudes.
  • You have the right to follow any of the rights listed above without waiting for approval
    from anyone; without waiting for a spouse/significant other, addict/alcoholic,
    and/or co-dependent loved-one to follow suit, get happy, seek help, or admit
    that a problem exists.

 

[1] Adapted from Adult Children of Alcoholics Anonymous with modifications from the insight and perspective of Intercept Interventions Co-Founder, Kelli Athas

2 Responses to “Family Issues and the Rights You Have”

  1. @parentofaddict Says:

    This post is a keeper. Fantastic!

  2. Admin Says:

    Thanks so much for your comments! Please stay in touch!

    Sincerest Regards,
    Kelli Athas

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